Get containers! start with getting containers put everything in a container and label it. Thats how you start. I never spend more than a dollar or two on a container. The dollar store is my best friend. This method helped me stay tidy and then eventually perfect my house mapping
This is not a 1 time fix. This is an every morning/every evening check. Don't go to bed with dirty dishes, Pick a day for chores (especially ones you don't like), declutter, do chores 2x a week. don't sit down if the counters are dirty. Find what works for you, do it, then reward yourself. No one likes to work for free, I reward myself with a cleaning crew that does the toilets and other deep cleaning because I DON'T LIKE IT.
Why are the spoons here and the drink mixes there? house mapping is a plan of where and why things go in a specific place. I have 2 spots for towels, one in the master and one in a hall closet. Why? Because it's easier. I took a year to map my house. where do I look for this, where is this naturally put? Why? And the map is for you! You are doing the work you decide what goes where to make your house easier for you.